Sunday, April 30, 2017

I tried - April (update and May Goals)

Recap for April:
Book
 - I read and enjoyed (still processing) Seven by Jen Hatmaker.    I will be hopefully posting a review/blog about my journey through her book.
Health - I can't seem to get my mind to care.  I want to be healthier (thinner/more in shape) but my motivation and drive are lacking.  I ran races, and took 3rd in one of them.  But as far as weightloss or fitting into a smaller size - that did NOT take place.  Also ran my first 15k, it was fun - but the course map got messed up so I ended up making my own route.  Get free admission to the race next year, so that's cool!
Scripture Memorization - I focused on Provers 1:7 (it's still written on our chalkboard in the dining room, looking at it now... a good daily reminder), John 8:32, 1 Peter 2: 1-3, Luke 10:42
Challenges - There is one main challenge I have been working on since February.  For the past three months I have been doing something, something small, but significant.  Stay tuned.



May is here!
It's a busy time of year for us. It's like a book coming to a close.  You watch as the pages turn and know that there is SOOOOO much more to read.  You skip words every now and then to see if that helps you get to the "good parts" - well May, the days will be a blur as baseball starts, Jeremiah graduates from college, I will be finishing up my 5th year of teaching, and we prepare for summer. April provided a good jump start on simplifying our lives (will talk more about that in the book review), and so hopefully May we can enjoy and create those habits to a more simplified life.

Book: Going to be reading Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis.  Shocking fact - I have never read a book by C.S. Lewis.  Never.  Not even Chronicles of Narnia.  I will hang my head and shame while putting my nose in this book (that I have heard several people recommend).

Health: Ketosis diet or life style change.  I think it's one that I can focus on.  I can eat B.A.C.O.N. for like every breakfast.  Ketosis is essentially an incredibly low carb diet.  We are talking like 30 or less grams of carbs a day.  Because I like to be different though, as much as I am going to focus on "healthy fats" I am also going to give myself grace and allow fruits (so much sugar/carbs!).  Jeremiah said he is going to do this as well, having his support always helps.
I am still running!  But loosing joy.  I have no one to run with and no longer have the drive to even compete with myself.  I hope that changes.  My sister and I, however, have attended a trampoline exercise class the past two weeks.  NOT little individual trampolines, but like at a trampoline gym. It's legitimate.

Scripture Memorization: Found this site that has a verse from each book of the bible.  Check it out.   Need to write our monthly newsletter update. This month going to look at: 1 Corinthians 10:13, 1 Thessalonians 5:11, 1 Peter 4: 8-9, James 4:10, Micah 7:8.  Do you have any tricks or methods that help you memorize scripture.  Do you "reword" it to make it shorter and "in your own words"?

Challenges: I am going to, for the third or fourth time, attempt to do the challenge bellow.  I am also going to continue for the forth month a special challenge that brings small pieces of joy to others.  You will just have to wait and find out what I am talking about.  I am going to have to process Jen Hatmaker's book, Seven, for there are some challenges in there that I think I'd enjoy attempting to help change my life.  Maybe for June??  EWWWWW, a real challenge, getting my garden to grow!


Other news: Our anniversary is at the end of the month!  Celebrate.

Have a great month! 

Friday, April 28, 2017

I tried - being a friend .... SURVEY

I love data and numbers and information.  If you are interested in filling out a survey about what a "friend" is and how social media changes our perception of our social interactions please fill out the voluntary survey below.

https://goo.gl/forms/7XpQESjO8Mouexq03

This is for fun and I am in no way a psychologist or person using this as an actual study.  This is just for my own personal insight to others perception.

I joke that I  have the emotional range of a teaspoon - but I am also a very loyal person.  Sometimes I do not see the world as others do and would like insight from my peers.

Thank you for your time!

Thursday, April 27, 2017

I tried - education {a public school teacher's view on homeschool}

 A "hot" topic in my "world" is education.  From toddler time to college, and everything in between, I value it. If you have extra time to waste, just bring up an educational related topic (i.e common core, discipline, retention, IEPs, etc....) we will talk. For hours.

WARNING: because this is a topic I am passionate about, this post is going to be lengthy - please look at the questions and find what best fits you.

I have had several parents come to me asking for my opinion about homeschooling over the alternative of public school. I have seen several articles recently about education - some with incredible inaccuracy and some with pure joy. So, now, instead of repeating myself, I can start pointing them to this blog.

Before I begin, I need to clarify some things about me.  I am public school teacher at a middle school, and currently, love my job.  I am a mother, but only to young children. I am opinionated, and do not have data to back up my claims (just resources and observations).  I am a Christian and some of my educational beliefs are woven tightly with my religious beliefs. I am a fan of homeschooling - and have had and still do consider it as an option for my own children as they age.

The best way to tackle this topic is through a Q and A session.  If you do not see your Q please post it in the comments and I would love to give you my version of the A - this is real life - not a multiple choice test.  =]


***What would I do if I was considering homeschooling, but are unsure?
As I mentioned, I have several peers who are considering homeschooling for a variety of reasons. Usually the biggest struggle I see from them is, "is this right?"  They might stay up late at night asking if they have the funds and other resources, the drive to home school.   They might be considering home schooling because of bad personal experiences in their own education.  Some of them consider home schooling for they have an UNeducated view of public schools (i.e. common core is evil - no, common core are standards, not my curriculum or how I teach - besides, most states are not aligned with common core anyhow - please don't be ignorant when making life choices for your family...... ooops, I am slipping on to another soap box).

If you are considering homeschooling please keep these thoughts in the back of your mind:
1)You have to do what is right for your family.  No one is going to fault you for that. Stand your ground, do research to support your opinions.  If you are religious, pray about the situation and ask God for guidance. Also see the questions about my Christianity and homeschooling later in the post.
2) LET THE TEACHER AND THE SYSTEM PROVE YOU WRONG.  If you have a fear or concern about school, one that might not be supported in concrete evidence - let your child try public school - if you are not happy - than home school. But let your teacher show you that rumors are in fact rumors.  I think you will be surprise that public school is not a bad place.
3) Educate your self.  Please, know what you are getting into.  This is not just a game, but your child's life you are dealing with.  A website I share helps identify with your type of home school that best fits with your personality and ideas of home school - check it out here. 
4) I BEG you as a  teacher, if you do homeschool, actually teach your children how to read and do basic math. It's very worrisome for me when I see students, who will one day be adults in our country, who can not multiply at the age of 13.  *sigh*



***What would I do if I was already homeschooling or enrolled in another non-public school system (private, charter, co-ops)?
Homeschooling, like I said, can be a huge success for several families.  I have seen it!  Sometimes I am envious of it.  If you are happy with your choice to home school please consider the following:

Don't bash public schools
For hundreds of thousands of families
public school IS their only choice.


These families and teachers need your support and encouragement.  I had one friend post on facebook how she really did not like that she has to pay property taxes to support a school that her children do not even attend.  I really wanted to respond with "you have the choice, others don't" - Is it justified taking away from others who might not be as lucky and blessed as you are?  Also, ponder this, if this your country - why wouldn't you want public schools to be successful and have proper funding - your kids are going to grow up and have to function as adults with public school taught adults.  Personally, I want to live in a country that is not full of ignorance, hate, and people lacking basic education - regardless of the route.   Think about those who do not have children who still pay property taxes.  Delight in your home school success, but do not bring down the public school.  Please.   If you want to see some positive reasons why home school is good, go here



***What would I do if my children have to attend public school?
Most families do not have the option to home school.  To that situation, I would say - make the best of your child's education.  Have constant or good communication with your child's teacher.  If there is a concern, instead of talking to other parents about it, address it with the teacher.  Although we are all adults, parents are very capable and sometimes the best at starting rumors.

You can be an activist for your child's education! 


If you are not pleased with what is happening with in a district, educate yourself about the situation (terminologies and what is normal protocol) - then, seek help from your principal, school board, governors.  You can be an activist for your child's education.

 Please keep in mind that like any profession there are good teachers and their are teachers who need another profession.  This practice, or lack of, is not uncommon; other professionals have the same issue from "corrupt cops" to "moral lacking doctors" there are people who should not be working where they currently are.

SUPPORT the school. Desegregation started centuries ago, however, because of economic status, some of our schools are slowly turning back into segregated schools.  Read this article about why some families don't want their kids going to another school. This breaks my heart.

Do you really want to live in a society that treats people differently because of their race or economical status?  If you are blessed and happened to end up in a school that you are pleased with, be thankful.  Show appreciation to the teachers and administration.

Always be supportive - think, are you part of the problem or the solution?



***What do I do differently as a Christian parent?
Although home schooling is a great fit for several families, as a Christian parent and as of right now, I want my kids to go to public school to be the light.  Our oldest, who is 5, understands who Jesus is and that he died for us.  I want Gideon to be friends with the meek, the poor, the hurt, the black, the Muslim, the "stereotype of your choice" child.  Our practice in our home is love ALL people and give them honor and dignity.  There will come a day when Gideon will bring home a friend that needs a loving place to feel safe.  I want that to be our home.

To love people,
we have to break free from our 
safe and comfortable circle of like minded peers. 


I usually get the follow up question or response along the lines: what about bullies, drugs, bad words, sex, bad behaviors, or an education I don't agree with..... My children are my children, regardless of where they go to school.  It is MY JOB AS THE PARENT TO TEACH THEM.  That is what it comes down to.  Until we can support single moms, help feed children, give refugees home, welcome foreigners better - the education system will remain broken, for the world is broken.   I am not going to rely or expect another person to be the parent of my child. 



***What would I do if I did homeschooling, but then "fail" or it is not longer an adequate option for our family?

First
Attempt
In
Learning

To fail means you are leaning what works for your family.  It's okay to attempt home school or similar programs and then realize that it is not as successful as you had hoped.  I know several families who have a "blended" family where some children go to public while others remain in an alternative setting.  It works beautifully for them!

Now, if it is not successful, please reevaluate the situation and try something different.  Unfortunately, I have seen several homeschooling failures as an educator. I have had a student who attempted to speak her own language, and would get frustrated with me for I did not understand her.  She did not do well in public school, a few months after, was pulled back out to home school.




This teachers final thoughts:
Our country needs public education.
Our public educators need everyone's support - or education is going to continue to be inadequate in the public's eye.  The article, although a few years old,  summarizes that over the past 40 years, despite endless debates about curricula, testing, teaching training, teachers' salaries, and performance standards, assessments, and despite billions of dollars invested in school reform, there has been NO improvement - none - in the academic proficiency of American high school students.

Something needs to be done. Teachers are leaving by the masses.  Read this article, or just simply google search why teachers no longer teach. It all comes down to community support. Teaching is no longer a respected or honored profession, comparitavely to other countries.

Teaching is not an easy job.
Parenting is not an easy job.

Please - if you have any questions, comments, or concerns, let me know.  I would love to hear from you!

Wednesday, March 29, 2017

I tried - March {April Goals}

Dear March,
You were good to me.  Lots of reasons to celebrate (most birthdays in a month).  Including my sister's new baby girl! *squeals* We had Spring Break, a time to relax and reconnect with family - much needed.  Fresh air filtering through the screen door as I listen to my sons play freely in dirt and new grass. Peaceful.  As quickly as you storm in, you roll out in a different storm.  And you always welcome your friend April.  Thank you March.  Until we meet again.  You were good.

I didn't even have time to write a pre-March challenge.   So here is what I accomplished:
Book - I read and enjoyed The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time by Mark Haddon.  You can read about it here.   I also took notes and skimmed over a book about how to read your Bible better; you can find those thoughts here.
Health - I didn't do well, but I didn't do horrible.  I kept running but I was not successful this month with tracking my food or my workout events.  Here's to "just be healthy"
Scripture Memorization - I (attempted) to memorize Matthew 15:18, Philippians 2:3, Matthew 25:25-26, Proverbs 10:17 and Isaiah 41:10.  I also, along with my husband and two friends sat down one evening and we read the entire book of Romans.
Challenges - The challenge I chose, and completed for March,  will be revealed at a later date for it is something that deserves it's own entire post.


Do you ever have those moments that the puzzle is just done. complete. finished and you have no idea how you got to that point, but it feels great.  My April puzzle is complete.  Here are some of the pieces that started to point towards the completion of what April is shaping up for me.

* My favorite quote since high school (maybe prior) see below
* Last Sunday our church started a sermon series called "Overload"
* Had planned, months ago, to read Jen Hatmaker's book "Seven" - first introduced by a friend 3 years ago. 
* Recently watched the documentary Minimalism that several friends raved over months ago.
* In preparation to move (now we are not) we had started a collection of things for a garage sale and will be participating in a City Wide sale. 
* Pinterest board from months ago had April as the "Waste Less" month
* My interest in the Tiny home movement.
* Easter - a major time of reflection.

"Simplicity is the Ultimate form of sophistication." -DaVinci

April shaped up to be a month of scaling back, losing the excess, finding peace in the simple things, joy.  Spring is typically the time that people do their "Spring Cleaning" - all of the above small pieces were just a way for me to realize that it's more than my house that needs spring cleaning; but my body, mind, and heart do as well.  A month to purge. 
Book - As I mentioned before I have been interested in the book "Seven" by Jen Hatmaker for a few years.  I purchased it over Christmas break in anticipation to read it sometime in 2017.  Perfect timing.  Although it's not April yet, I have already started reading it - let's just say this - she's hilarious.  [Purge - media and hopefully will read more books]


Health - April 1st will be a big day - running my first 15k.  Although I have ran a half marathon, this will be challenging for I have not been able to train as much as I would like.  I had some encouraging ladies remind me that it's okay to walk and just have fun.   A few weeks later I will have another 5k and would love to see my time improve.  I WILL (not going to try, but DO) the above daily challenge as well as the same amount of burpees as is the date.  So, April 7th I will do 7 burpees.  I will also be completing whole30 simultaneously tracking food and water intake. I might even participate in Jen's first chapter about Seven Foods....... [Purge fat and negative self image]

Scripture Memorization - I have the following pieces of scripture to work on memorizing and more importantly applying to my life: Proverbs 1:7, 1 Peter 2: 1 - 3, John 8: 31 - 32, and Luke 10: 41 - 42.  The cool 'God' story about these scriptures, they have been listed in my Bible for several weeks, but they all seem to fit the need to focus on Jesus and his teaching - true priorities.  [Purge the world]


Challenge - I am going to be keeping the same challenge that I have been working on this past March. I look forward to updating everyone about the observations I have been honored to witness from doing this very easy task in my life.  I am also going to do something, that I just learned about tonight, called "listening prayer."  If you would like to know more about what it is, please ask. [Purge doubt; in others too]



Tuesday, March 28, 2017

I tried - reading Women of the Word:How to Study the Bible with Both Our Hearts and Our Minds [Book Review]


Hey look, I did it!  I read 2 books in one month.  Technically, if you want to call the Book of Romans a book on it's own, than I have read 3 books in one month.  *This never happens*

Okay, I hate lies.

I can't really say I truly read the book Women of the Word.  I read the first few chapters and then started to skim.  Here's why.... in one of my groups we had a lady speak about how to study your Bible and she referenced (and gave credit) to this book.  I just couldn't face spending time on something that I have already taken notes over.


Women of the Word:How to Study the Bible with Both Our Hearts and Our Minds written by Jen Wilkin is an incredibly short book, to the point, helpful but not shameful. Jen is truly passionate about helping women understand the word better.

I also found this PDF for anyone who would like to do a more in depth study over Jen's book.

Like I mentioned, I took notes from a wonderful mentor, who prior to the session, encouraged us to read the book.  Here is the google doc on my notes.

Some highlights from the document:
5 P’s to studying the Bible:
Purpose - meta narrative, keep in mind the overarching story of the Bible.
Perspective - archaeologist dig into the word - who wrote it? Who was it written for? What genre? What is happening in the world at the time? When did it take place? What was it written?
Patients - don’t give up when you don’t understand, enjoy the process and know that no man will fully understand the beauty of His Word. This will take time.  Slowly form a habit so when you slip up you start up again.
Process - as you are reading and process information ask yourself these three questions 1) what does it say/comprehension? 2) what does it mean/interpretation? 3) how should it change me/application?
Prayer - you can’t be successful in studying your Bible if you don’t read.  Practice makes permanent.

Wednesday, March 15, 2017

I tried - reading The Curious Incident of the Dog in the nigh-time [March Book review]


January - I read a book about how to study your Bible.  [Understanding your Bible in 30 days by Max Andres]
February - I read a book about my heart [Calm My Anxious Heart by Linda Dillow]
March - I read fiction book!

The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time by Mark Haddon is a great book!  It reminded me a lot of Perks of Being a Wallflower (which I first read in high school 12+ years ago).  I relate these two books to each other because they are both very quick enjoyable reads.  Both books also offer a sense of wonder and page-turning curiosity until the end.  YOU WANT TO KNOW WHAT IS HAPPENING TO CHRISTOPHER!

TCIOTDITNT also reminds me of the book Flowers for Allgeron, both were written in first-person, you were getting the feel of the character by living through them.  One main example about TCIOTDITNT is that Christopher numbers the chapters with prime-numbers.

I personally enjoyed the fact that he explains himself.  He does not like certain colors...here's why.  He doesn't like being touched....explanation to follow.  Although he is thorough in his thoughts and writing of the story, it is not drawn out or redundant by any means. His references to pop-culture were also a good way for me to stay focus and enjoy this read.

The relatable aspect to the story was a major reason for it to be a good novel to read. Christopher is a 15 year old boy allowing me to see parallels between the main character and that of my own students.  I also enjoyed the book for having been to England/London I was able to visually see what he was writing about.  A person who is not British or has not traveled to the UK might have a harder time appreciating the cultural diversities from transportation to words used.

A great book, would recommend anyone over the age of 14 to read, for it does have some language and mature-content (just read the first chapter for that discovery).

The fact that we are only half way through the month  and I already finished my goal of reading a book, I might try to stretch myself and read another book!

Let me know if you have read this book.  What are your thoughts?   What should I read next?

Wednesday, March 1, 2017

I tried - letting my kid watch Disney {Beauty and The Beast}

My wonderful husband, Jeremiah, sent me an article about the new 2017 Beauty and the Beast.  It was titled: Disney Movies' First Ever 'Exclusively Gay Moment' in New 'Beauty and the Beast'

Oh awesome, I enjoy reading articles.  He sent the article to me because our oldest, who is turning 5 soon, wants to take one of his best girl friends to the movies and out to eat.  A date. 

Yes, I am encouraging my son to take his friend on a date.  Because if I don't teach him how to be a gentleman at a young age (while he's impressionable) than what am I teaching him?
Not to mention, his mom, Emily (one of my best friends) and I want to see the movie too, so we can conveniently chaperon the event.

Once I looked at the article on my phone I quickly went to my dear friend, Google.  There were several news article with similar head lines.  

The first thing that caught my attention was the word "moment." What's a moment?  Seriously.  Can a moment be 10 seconds.  So are we not talking about a full fledged gay-sex-scene?  Is this 'moment' something that only adults would understand as more than a moment?     You know, Disney with their sneaky subtle innuendos. Was this announcement of a gay moment just another way to spark public's interest or concern?

I started texting Jeremiah and Emily about it.  Should we still take our kids to this?

My husband and I's conversation went something along the lines of: this is our world, we don't want to shelter Gideon but educate him with a Christian foundation - meaning, if he does catch this 'moment' that we can have an open dialogue about gay people and how we are still meant to love them.  Gideon would say, "because we love people" and "we do good to all people."   Jeremiah actually believes that Gideon will be more scared of the Beast and not catch anything else.

We decided that our son could still go.

A little later Emily started talking about the article and her first response was "this is the world we live in." as I was typing something similar about helping our younger ones understand the world without being drowned in the world.  She talked about how their family has watched the classic cartoon version numerous times.

She decided that her daughter can still go.

In Emily and I's conversation I mentioned how every movie has something "wrong" with it.  People were upset about Zootopia at one point; complaining that it was racist.  She then brought up all the other negative attitudes and characters within the Disney movie Beauty and the Beast.

I started to look more into Disney movies and at what age is it appropriate for young children to be exposed to the variety of issues that Disney challenges.  Below are some crude and maybe slightly exaggerated examples:


and 


When we think of movies though, they can be a teaching tool.  Any form of media can be a teaching tool.   I am almost positive we were more successful potty training Gideon because of Daniel Tiger's episode with the catchy potty tune. Mother Goose was a political satire - just leave that right here.

Growing up I didn't not watch many Disney movies or really any movies.  I have never asked my parents why. This year my Dad  took their 4 and 3 year old grandson's to go see Star Wars - full of violence and all sorts of other scenes.  So either they changed, or we just didn't watch movies.

I was not a princess girl.  Although I did adore Belle and remember seeing the Lion King for the first time.  I don't remember ever trying to live their life.  I was never in a fantasy world. Could I be a different person if I watched more Disney (or any movies) as a child?  We only know.

Here's my bottom thought: as a parent you have to know your boundaries and your child's mental and emotional ability. We have always carried out open and honest conversations with Gideon (at an appropriate age level).  I can't protect him from everything, we live in a broken world.  But I can help guide him through rough obstacles and thoughts.

I remember being in junior high and asked my dad about a Stephen King R-rated movie.  His response was something along the lines, "You have read the book, your imagination is much more dangerous than that of a movie you will see."

If Gideon gets scared in the New Beauty and the Beast, it will be an opportunity to talk about attitude, contentment, loving people regardless of their outward appearance.  It might also bring questions about the gay couple or other deeper issues.  I will pray that I will have the right words to help guide his curiosity where he can have a better understanding, without being hurt.

I wore a red-X on my hand the other day.  February 23, 2017.   Gideon asked what it was for.  He understands that there are people living on the streets, that there are people hurting.  He now knows what a slave is.  But he does not need to know what sex is, he's five.  Just like that red-X, this movie will be an opportunity for Gideon to learn about others so he can love them better.

This is the world we live in.  Disney is being culturally relevant.

Do you have a certain age that kids can watch certain movies?